Healing from a Breakup Series. Tools for Healing: Meditation

Finding stillness within the storm

By Cyn MárquezPublished about 6 hours ago • 2 min read

Healing from a Breakup Series. Tools for Healing: Meditation

“Our idea of happiness is the main obstacle to happiness.”
Thich Nhat Hanh, Vietnamese monk, peace activist, author, poet, and teacher

Meditation is a powerful tool for overcoming grief, crisis, anxiety, and depression because these experiences share a common root: rumination. The mind tends to replay the same thoughts in a vicious cycle, intensifying negative emotions. By learning to observe your thoughts without engaging with them, you create space for your mind to rest—eventually freeing yourself from what causes suffering.

I’ve followed Buddhist teachings and practiced meditation for years, but over time, my discipline faded. That inconsistency left me emotionally vulnerable and unable to regulate my inner world. The result was deep suffering—not only for me, but also for those closest to me.

Something shifted during this crisis. I stopped blaming others and external circumstances for my pain. Instead, I chose to take full responsibility—to learn from my mistakes and return to meditation with the same commitment I give to my physical health. I’m still learning, but after 2 years of consistent and disciplined practice, I’m starting to see real progress. You can experience this too. When you train yourself to be present, anxiety begins to ease, and day by day, you become more aware of your tendency to overthink—to create suffering by repeating the same internal stories.

Meditation itself is not difficult. What’s difficult is allowing yourself to do absolutely nothing for at least 30 minutes a day in a world that constantly demands productivity. Yet this is exactly what makes it so powerful. Meditation helps us live with intention and strengthens our ability to face life’s challenges—especially those beyond our control.

It allows both body and mind to rest. It reminds us to celebrate being alive and aware. Meditation is a window into the mind—one filled with possibility.

I also like to begin and end each session with gratitude for being alive on this planet, even when life feels painful. I’ve noticed that the more I practice gratitude, the happier I become. Try it.

Meditating in the Midst of Pain

Meditating while facing life’s hardships can feel overwhelming. For some, it may even intensify the pain. Everyone’s experience is different, but I’ve found that surrendering to the experience—rather than resisting it—can be deeply healing.

The sooner you allow yourself to fully embrace your pain and become one with it, the more transformative the process can be. This shift helped me experience fewer relapses and recover more quickly. Giving myself permission to cry as much as I needed was equally liberating.

I’ve spoken with others who shared similar struggles but avoided confronting their pain because it felt too overwhelming. Many of them took longer to heal. That’s why I encourage you to give this approach a chance. When met with awareness, humility, and dignity, pain can become a powerful teacher.