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What Do Women Look for In a Man?
What Women Really Want With regards to finding an accomplice, men will in general be a lot easier than ladies. Ladies, be that as it may, will in general be somewhat more confused. Some folks need some assistance understanding what ladies search for in a man. Here are a couple of things most ladies are seeking after in their accomplice:
By Trippy Joe6 years ago in Humans
The Suffering Emotional Blackmailer
For many of us, it’s hard to witness suffering, particularly if it’s someone we love. Some kinds of emotional blackmailers take advantage of that and use it to manipulate us to their will. Enter the suffering emotional blackmailer. This type of emotional blackmailer really focuses on feeling miserable. They can seem sick, unhappy, or just plain unlucky but the only remedy they see is for us to give in to their will. If someone resists this, it quickly becomes apparent that their suffering is our fault. We are made to feel like the sole cause of their pain and discomfort and all because we said no or set a boundary.
By Teela Hudak6 years ago in Humans
Self-Punishing Emotional Blackmailer
Who would use the threat of self-punishment to get what they want? The truth is many people have tried it in various forms. Have you ever seen a kid in the middle of a tantrum who’s threatened to hold their breath until they turn blue unless the parent gives in? Did you ever do that as a kid? Most people have done this, experienced it, or both throughout their lives. The blue-faced threat is a very simple and obvious example of a self-punishing threat an emotional blackmailer would use. The threats used by an adult engaging in self-punishing emotional blackmail tend to be much more sophisticated but the foundational principle is the same. You give in to their demands or grave harm will befall them… and it will be your fault!
By Teela Hudak6 years ago in Humans
Tantalizing Emotional Blackmailer
Out of all the different types, the tantalizing emotional blackmailer is the most subtle. This type of abuser manipulates through the use of promises of great rewards for jumping through their hoops. The rewards can be anything from promises of money, career advancements, material possessions, or even the promise of their undivided attention, acceptance, and love. They will sometimes buffer this by making smaller concessions that are easy for them in order to keep the promise of the real prize feel like it’s within grasp. Whatever carrot the tantalizing emotional blackmailer dangles is something their victim never gets anywhere actually near. Instead, the victim jumps through a series of hoops and challenges to prove their worthiness, often without even realizing they are being emotionally blackmailed.
By Teela Hudak6 years ago in Humans
What is Effective Communication?
It should be no surprise that effective communication is a key element of successful and rewarding relationships. Our talking skills also serve us very well in the bedroom. It helps improve our sex lives and the level of intimacy we experience with our partner. Frustratingly, good communications skills can be hard to come by. Not everyone has them or understands why they are so important.
By Teela Hudak6 years ago in Humans
The Punishing Emotional Blackmailer
Emotional blackmail can happen in a number of different ways. Different abusers have different styles and well as strategies that go with those styles. One of the most blatant styles is that of the Punisher. We are definitely not talking about the avenging comic book character but a type of abuser who uses aggressive anger, fury, and direct threats to invoke the fear, obligation, and guilt of emotional blackmail. This type of emotional blackmailer is the most obvious and easy to spot.
By Teela Hudak6 years ago in Humans
Failing Fast.
“You’re going to fail, so just do it fast” my go to thought when attempting anything new. As a small but very flexible child, my parents naturally put me into gymnastics and cheerleading, and if you know anything about these sports than you know they’re not as easy or pretty as it seems.
By Tiana Proctor6 years ago in Humans
Charm(ed.)
The Why Being charming or being delightful is necessary. Being classy and charming allows one to move through social spaces more easily. We all know someone that may not have been qualified for a position but is invited to work on new projects or promoted. Their personalities have won over bosses and supervisors alike. In dating, these are the people that may not have extraordinary features but their ability to groom well and be pleasant partners have landed them into committed relationships. Being charming can be extremely advantageous as it doesn’t involve the genetic lottery or any prerequisites. One can simply decide that today they will be more engaged in other’s thoughts instead of their own, that they will iron their clothes and keep themselves groomed.
By Simone Alison6 years ago in Humans
The nice guy with no boundaries
In any relationship, boundaries are crucial. Being in a relationship, you need to understand that you are the highest authority to yourself. Healthy boundaries allow yourself to take better care of yourself – emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. I had to learn the hard way when my partner was crossing my boundaries.
By Annie Curran6 years ago in Humans
