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4 Real Relationship Goals
“Relationship goals” has been the catchphrase on the tip of everyone’s tongue, but, who’s setting these unrealistic standards of perfection? Not even those on the perfectly framed Instagram platform can achieve these unattainable images with any level of consistency? I wanted to share just four simple, practical and very realistic relationship goals everyone can reach to hopefully alleviate some of the potentially damaging pressures we often put on our relationships and marriages under in the name of #RelationshipGoals.
By EuGene Jordan6 years ago in Humans
I Still Do: 9 Years On
Couples in their 20s are the most likely group to divorce so, as we got married in our early twenties the stats were firmly against us but, here... we... are! Today's the day! Nine years on and my wife and I celebrate nine roller coaster years of marriage. A lot has happened since we first met as teenagers all those years ago. We've experienced a lot over the years but the one thing that I've learned is that falling in love was easy, however, staying in love is where we've had to really put the work in. Here are 5 honest lessons I've learned (and still learning) over the last nine years of marriage.
By EuGene Jordan6 years ago in Humans
Refocusing your Marriage
Have you have you ever been sat for hours on end in front of your computer trying to focus on something for an important deadline? You've been at it for so long, however, things are becoming so blurry that you just can't see the tree for the woods? You've lost focus! You take a moment to step away from the computer, grabbed yourself a beverage and now you've returned back to the computer all of a sudden you see clearly. The glaringly obvious is steering you in the face. This is often how we become within our relationships. We can be face to face with our partner for so long that her beauty (mind body and soul) become a blur. That feeling of disconnect begins to kick in and you start taking what you have in front of you for granted or even worse, you slowly start to fall out of love without even realising it.
By EuGene Jordan6 years ago in Humans
Is it Over?
It can be one of the hardest things to accept that a relationship is failing. When we see the signs that something is amiss in our love life we do tend to become desperate and try to fix whatever is broken. Sometimes we do the complete opposite and ignore the problems. There are times when no matter how hard you try, nothing can bring back a relationship that is past its expiry date. It’s about knowing when it’s time to just call it quits and end things. Red flags can be easy to miss and sometimes they are so obvious but we don’t pay attention or maybe it’s because we don’t want to believe it’s true. The signs could be:
By Test6 years ago in Humans
How to Bring the Best Out of People
There are all sorts of people. Millions of them. And all different. Some folks are real perfectionists who like keeping everything in check and everybody on their toes.
By Antonia Lyons6 years ago in Humans
How To Get Along With People
Our daily life is made of endless relations with the external world. From the moment we get up in the morning 'til bed time, we would have spent our whole day dealing with other people.
By Antonia Lyons6 years ago in Humans
Negative Relationships
Be self-full it allows you to focus more on your inner self. - Carlene Charles I’m affected! Yes, I am, by relationships that consist of depleting me of myself. I never receive phone calls or messages from people to see if I’m managing within myself. I can count on my fingers the number of times I get asked this. I've however lost count on the therapeutic phone calls I give out for free. I don’t want to come across cold or unsupportive towards those that are around me, but how much do you take on before it starts to influence your mental wellbeing.
By Chantelle C6 years ago in Humans
Dating 2020
How do people on the self healing path, date? Consciously is the answer, be present and conscious of your karmic patterns. Immature behaviours need to be left in the last decade, we are moving forward and times are changing.
By Nakisha 6 years ago in Humans
Struggles of being Shy.
I've been socially awkward almost all my life. It's always been difficult to just speak my mind, especially when it is at a group gathering. I have the answer, but I always doubt my self. It would be at the silliest things as well. Such as what if I am wrong (when I'm not) and even if I am so what these people are my friends. But to my mind its a big deal.
By Autumninspace6 years ago in Humans
Teenage Heartbreak
I'm probably a little out of my depth here as this comes from almost a decade ago and is strictly from memory. However, that being said, I remember a lot about my first heartbreak. I remember it hurt. I remember feeling like things wouldn't ever get better and that I'd be destined to walk the earth alone aimlessly until my dying days. I also remember coming back from it after months of trauma and perplexing thoughts. But let's take a step back and rewind to the very beginning. Hopefully, here, you can understand that this thing you're going through isn't the end after all. Hear me out, and you'll come to learn that it really is only the beginning of something truly beautiful.
By Jord Tury6 years ago in Humans
You Look Happy, But You Don't Feel Happy.
For the last couple of weeks I've been feeling lost. Feeling like something is missing. Feeling anxious, Upset, Lonely and much more. I cried and cried and cried myself too sleep some nights wondering what has happened to me? why am I feeling the way I am feeling?
By Erika Busson 6 years ago in Humans
Gaslighting In Relationships
I never really understood what gaslighting was, until I found out that I myself was guilty of doing it to my ex boyfriend. Albeit, that wasn't why things ended, but after looking back, and my therapist going "yeah you really can't say those things to people", it was pretty easy to start to listen, and check myself. I've recently found myself in a situation where I kept going crazy, for seemingly no reason, and I couldn't figure out how 'something small' was turning into something huge in my own mind. To keep from gaslighting people and have them gaslight me, I've made a list.
By Taylor Klemmensen 6 years ago in Humans