breakups
When it comes to breakups, pain is inevitable, but Humans thinks that suffering is optional.
Dear Ex #1
I've decided to write open letters to each of my exes. I felt inspired to do this for two reasons: one being Ariana Grande's new single, "Thank U, Next." For those of you who have not yet heard the song I urge you to check it out! She briefly describes each of her past relationships and what she has learned from each and how they have shaped her for the better. The second reason for these open letters is because of the fact that I actually feel as though I am currently with the man I will marry and spend the rest of my life with. I feel as though doing these open letters will not only give me closure but help me appreciate how grateful and blessed I am to have finally found the one... This will be one letter of three that I hope to do.
By Kendra Bennett7 years ago in Humans
Love Is Not a Choice
It’s hard. Being in the middle is so hard. This feeling of staying between two fires, you can get burned so easily. I think love is so overrated. Love will tear us apart, like Joy Division said. I’ve got a strong fear of not being loved back. I’ve always wanted to not get attached to someone, but if people who love will hate, people who hate will love. I loved this guy, so much, I cannot even breath if I’m next to him. It’s been five years now since we don’t talk anymore. He had the most beautiful eyes I had ever seen. I could not speak to him at first, as if I did not feel worth telling him anything, I did not want to ruin it, consume it, but I did not want to end the moment. We went out once, and for a year, I tried to feel his eyes staring at me, I knew he was talking to me about some people, but I did not care. Then I began to understand. Love is only wanting the good for a person, even when things are bad, but fucking bad, and for him it is worth less than the earth that tramples. Be there, always. That day I took courage, went to a friend of his, and ended up writing to us. I still remember, when I saw the message, I felt so happy and so sad, I did not want to ruin everything.
By Regina Mauro7 years ago in Humans
Worst Breakup Ever
I decided to change names as to not destroy the already deflating ego of a diabolical cheater. I was sitting in the kitchen drinking coffee when I heard a soft knock at the door. I wasn’t expecting anyone, and I felt as if the person knocking regretted the knock as soon as they did it. I opened the door and was surprised to see a beautiful brown haired girl standing in front of me. A few awkward glances at each other and I said, "Can I help you?" She started scrunching her shirt and I felt as though she was scared. I was ready to shut the door when she asked if Luke was home. Annoyed with the fact that another girl was looking for my boyfriend, I asked her who she was and why she was looking for him.
By Kelsey Hayes7 years ago in Humans
Modern Day Fairy Tale
Photo by Corey Motta on Unsplash Once again, I had finally had enough of this on again, off again FWB arrangement that we started in May 2017. Our first hook up was May 28. I will never forget the date because it's my parents anniversary. He was playing that game of cat and mouse once again. I'd told him numerous times that I would leave him alone, once and for all. "Just tell me, Chase. I'll be out of your messenger and life once and for all." His response was always no response. A few days or weeks would go by and either I would give in and reach out to him or he would send me some cute picture of himself, knowing that I would cave.
By Tammy Soley7 years ago in Humans
An Open Letter of Apology
Where to start, you changed me for the better and for the worst. The first thing I want to do is apologise, I'm sorry I wasn't enough and I'm sorry I wasn't ready, I was so scared of loving you that I made you hate me. I wish I could have been stronger. I always admired you for being unapologetically yourself and I hope you are still like that, that is the first of many things that made me love you. You were my best friend. The only person to understand me, to truly understand me. I thought you always would, I hoped you always would.
By Cassidy Kirk7 years ago in Humans
Love You to Death (Pt. 2)
Dania used her common sense and stayed on the floor until she heard the door close behind Taalib as he left. Did she really just hear him speaking to Zarina? Why was he telling her thanks and where is he pulling up to? What was really going on she wondered. Dania got up off of the floor as if nothing happened, but she was just kicked in the head.
By Nychole Lee7 years ago in Humans
People Change
Everyone needs to feel good about themselves right? Especially when you feel like everything has been taken from you in a flash. All of your hopes and dreams are in the middle of coming true, just to get taken away. Well that has happened to me. I thought my life was over forever. And after two years of anger, and pity parties, I learned to stop blaming myself.
By Courtney Elizabeth7 years ago in Humans
The Remains of 'Him'
It wasn’t a conventional relationship, but she had defined it as a relationship all the same. It had only been 2 weeks, 17 hours and 4 minutes since ‘he’ had last been in her life but for her it had felt like a lifetime had passed. The days were hard; the nights harder. Thoughts of ‘him’ flowed through her mind and the darkness was no comfort. These thoughts consumed her. A deep longing for ‘him’ clawed at her from the inside out, entangling her, like roots of a weed sucking the life from her, sending her in to a pit of sadness. She could waste hours of her life just thinking about ‘him’ all those times together, the laughs, the highs and the lows and then the highs again but if she was truly honest they always came crashing back down. But she often ignored this, choosing to focus on the good times, those times ‘he’ had been there without question. Those times when ‘he’ had been the only thing that had got her through.
By Lauren Oscar7 years ago in Humans
Healing from a Broken Heart at 14
When I started middle school, months later I began dating my elementary school crush. He was cute and a little bit of nerd and I was just a little girl who wanted to feel loved, give love, and be happy. We all know how middle school relationships are. You hang out sometimes with a group of friends and never really go farther than lightly touching each other’s shoulders, maybe holding hands. We “dated” for a few months, and probably hung out four times over those maybe 6 months? Yeah. We’ve all had our share of those relationships.
By Avery Eldon7 years ago in Humans
Remembering the Good
When I talk about my past relationships I usually end up talking about how they ended. Despite my attempts to always go forth in all things in kindness, most of my relationships have ended badly. So in talking about the ends only, I often am most frequently remembering the bad parts exclusively. I don't think that is a fair thing to do, either to myself, my audience, or the people I have loved. This maybe an exercise in futility, but it is a labor I am willing to complete for the sake of shedding some light on myself, my behaviors, and also to remember that despite how things ended each person that has come in and out of my life has been worthy of love, not just from me but from others as well.
By Paige Graffunder7 years ago in Humans
