self help
Self help, because you are your greatest asset.
Throwing Money Away Like Its Garbage
When I think of money I think of malls, nails, hair, and etc. Its all a girl wants to be pretty and to have the latest fashion. My parents are very successful and have earned there riches. When it came to money for me it was a whole another story. I didn't take money seriously. I just thought it was a piece if paper that could get me anything. I mean money can get you anything you want. On the other other hand you have to work for it and I wasn't the best at that.
By hunter ruchelle5 years ago in Motivation
Mindful Dreams
When I was young all I really wanted was to know who I was and be recognized for the task I would take on to become someone recognizable to the world. Little did I know that task would be a whirlwind of ups and downs that I would learn from. It all started with basketball, one dribble at a time, one shot in the hoop just to make me feel like I could accomplish a job given to me. A job that I believed was my god given right since I grew to love it. However, just because you love something doesn’t always mean it’s for you. This is what I had to learn early on. Some dreams aren’t meant for you and that is something I had to learn to be okay with the hard way. However, I didn’t learn this for a while and didn’t realize I was learning it up until I had a moment of severe discipline as I would like to recall. That story is for later on in this entry. Basketball on a team in. a college disciplined scenario was a lot harder than I thought. Despite the ongoing athletic training I had to undergo and the endless hell week of testing my abilities giving it my all. I didn’t make the team and my heart was shattered. I felt like I could at least be a substitute for the team but even the coach told me you just don’t have the skills to play and that hurt like nothing I’ve ever experienced in life. Although, I had to move on my big heart couldn’t settle for something complacent, it had to be something amazing, something that could change me forever and it did. I decided to take on theatre arts and what a journey that would become.
By Cerina Galvan5 years ago in Motivation
10 Things I Discovered When Learning to Like Myself
1. Trying to please everyone doesn't please anyone, most of all you. I was a healthcare social worker for 18 years. The job of the social worker is to basically tie together all of the other departments working with a patient to ensure all of their goals and needs are met. When multiple departments are involved, multiple people need things. Most often, multiple people need things right now. I did my best to try and do everything for everyone. At the end of the day nothing was completely done, everyone was mad and I was burned out. Don't do that. Focus on the order of importance and some other people will have to wait. The same goes for family. Every holiday was Mom's family and Dad's family who wanted time. Then it became the parents families of my significant others. It's impossible to be in four places at once, no matter how many desserts are offered. Plan your schedule with what works for you and work on compromise. If someone refuses to cooperate then that is their choice. Some may be mad but they will get over it. Do not ruin your holiday trying to appease everyone else's. Make your effort definitely, you can't blow off your family but if someone is unreasonable and behaving badly then it is okay to choose not to interact with them. 2. It's okay if people don't like you A supervisor once told me 10% of people will love you no matter what. Another 10% will hate you no matter how hard you try. Do what you can for the 80% in the middle that can go either way. Not everyone is going to have warm and fuzzy feelings toward you and that's okay. A friend of mine was self conscious about her legs. She's a beautiful woman but she doesn't see herself that way all of the time. She told me it was 90 degrees out, her air conditioning was broken and she was wearing sweatpants. Our conversation went like this: "Why?" I asked her. "I don't like the way people look at me when I go out." she said. "What people?" I asked her. "Oh I don't know, whoever is around" she replied. "So, strangers?" I asked. "Yes I suppose so." Girl are you listening to yourself? "What effect does the opinion of a stranger, who you will never see again have on your life?" "None" was her answer. "Exactly. put some shorts on." Now of course you have to follow rules of society but wear what you want, do what is right. If someone has a problem with you, that's exactly what it is: their problem. 3. Love what you do or find a way to do what you love Day one of social work school I will never forget the professor saying if you're here to make money or change the world I can tell you to start off that you won't. Pssshhhh.... that's because no one has done it yet I thought. The professor was right. There were weeks I would sit in my house that needed repairs, stirring my hot dogs and ramen noodles and looking at my empty bank account thinking how did I get here? I would go into work and, well, see number 1. Years upon years of the same, in a job that couldn't go anywhere wears down on a person. Now I love the field of social work, I do absolutely love solving problems, making goals, meeting varieties of people and helping people out of bad situations. Some people didn't want to be helped. Some people blamed me for their problems, some people thought I could create a solution that doesn't exist. It was my job, I was told. Eventually you wear out, you need a break, you burn out. I needed a break long before I was told I needed a break. Rock bottom came when I wound up in intensive care and the diagnosis list was so long the doctors couldn't figure out how I was functioning as well as I had been. I can't anymore. I can't hold an office job, I can't be available at a moment's notice and I have my health to worry about. Writing was always my outlet. Most of my writing I never let people read. Now that I've been out of the workforce, I've been writing. I published a book. Another one comes out in a few days. People read my work and they liked it! Guess what? I love writing! Now, writing doesn't currently pay the bills. It may never pay the bills. I am still having to file a disability application and sacrifices are being made but my stress level is mostly manageable. I still have panic attacks, I don't like to leave my house much but now I don't have to. Lesson learned: There is always a different path you can choose. If you're not happy with the one you're on, take the fork in the road. 4. Your parents were right. Rules? I don't need their stupid rules. When I grow up I don't have to clean if I don't want to, I can stay up as late as I want, I don't have to go to school. I'm never going to treat my kids the way they treat me. I was about 25 and had lost both of them before I realized I was in way over my head and should have listened. There's so many things I do today that I wished I had learned more from them. Managing money, cooking, deep cleaning, self care, the list goes on and on. Bottom line: no matter how old you are, you still need Mom and Dad in whatever shape they may come in: single parents, two moms, two dads whatever. Remember them, talk to them if they're still here and most importantly learn from them. 5. Living for anyone but you is not living Your. life. cannot. revolve. around. other. people. the end. 6. just because you were trained to do it, doesn't mean you have to. I graduated college in 2002 with a Bachelor's degree in social work. I did that job for 18 years, I physically can't anymore. Sometimes I feel my degree was a waste but in reality it has helped me in so many other areas. Just because I have a social work degree, doesn't mean I have to be a social worker. I learned how to actively and passively listen, I learned how to pick out what someone is telling me and make sure I understand it correctly, I learned empathy and how to think outside the box. These skills are things many people lack yet come in handy every day. They also help to create characters, enabling me to get inside of a character, to feel what they would feel and to solve problems. The fact that I wrote the problem into existence in the first place is beside the point. 7. Don't work too hard, your dog misses you Once upon a time I lived alone. Not completely alone, My dog Daffy was there. Daffy is my best friend. We walked every morning. I went to work. She got crazy hyper when I came home, we played in the yard, we played with toys and then we cuddled in bed when it was time to go to sleep. My hours became later and later. I couldn't say my work load was unrealistic, it all had to be done. My hours got longer and longer. I was too tired when I got home. I did a deep clean one weekend and found all of Daffy's toys under my bed. She'd been trying to play with me for goodness knows how long and I had been too tired. Go home on time. See your family. Play with your dog. Remember what they say, dogs are part of our life but to them we are their whole life. Dogs deserve good lives full of fun with their owners. 8. Want what you need. Needing what you want is bonus. We as a culture like stuff. We like buying a lot of stuff. There are certain things that we need. We need nutritious food and water, decent shelter, clothing, ways to get places etc. Everything else is bonus. Learn to live within your budget. Save for a rainy day. be happy when you are able to acquire everything you need. When there is extra money for things you want then splurge but learn to distinguish between need and want in your budget. You don't have to impress anyone with the latest anything. You need to make yourself comfortable. 9. Ask for help Asking for help is sooooo hard. We feel weak, we feel we should have handled things ourselves. We hate these feelings. Sometimes everything is too much, or we don't understand. Maybe we're not strong enough. Maybe it's addiction, mental illness, Whatever the case may be, a job needing more people is better than a job not getting done. When the task at hand is too much, seek help, if you don't get it, seek from another source. 10. Be led by leaders, if you can't find one, be one. Jobs have a hierarchy system. There's a boss, there's managers, there's employees. That boss is appointed in their position to lead. Managers help the boss do that. Sometimes, we got stuck. Your boss needs to be the person you can go to and say 'I don't understand' or 'I need help.' A leader will help you through whatever situation you are in. Help you to figure it out and point you in the right direction. Have you ever had a boss that told you to figure it out yourself when you sought help? Or how about "I'm not doing your work for you." What about a co-worker that vents to you because they have been to the boss and gotten that reaction. How about community projects? Ever show up to the church rummage sale and find everyone running around like chickens? Leaders create order. They get things done and give assignments to others in order to make that happen. If you leader is not leading you, be the leader that's needed. I have struggled with anxiety my entire life. I have had poor self esteem for as long as I can remember. A lot of people in my life have taken advantage of that, some still do. I still have a long way to go to figure myself out and I may never do that, but I'm proud of what I've done so far. Never be afraid to change something you're unhappy with. You deserve more.
By Amanda U5 years ago in Motivation
Growing Pain or Sitting On A Cactus
I am not much different than any of you who read this text, I`m in my mid-twenties and I`m wondering where I came from and where I am headed. These are pretty hard questions especially because of all the experiences from my past; they formed me and made me the person who I am right now. When I was younger, I have always heard from people around me that hard situations in my life are just growing pain and they are going to move me foreword and direct me towards the right direction, but by now I think there were moments when I was more likely sitting on a cactus. I mean, I felt the pain out of the situation, but did not move me the direction I wanted it to and I definitely haven`t seemed to learn out of them other than "Don`t ever do this again!" or "Don`t ever trust that person!". I was wondering many times, why was this happening, but I haven`t really found the right answer to this question and I`m not sure if I will ever know it for sure. You might wonder, "But what are you exactly trying to say?!" and” Who are you?!" What I`m trying to say is that hard pasts are not always our fault, life happens and we can`t change that. I lost my mother in a really early age, I couldn’t do much... She got sick and in a matter of time she wasn`t there anymore. I didn`t deserve it to happen, but it did anyway. It formed me and made me a stronger person, helped me to understand people`s situation and their pain. Helped me to have more empathy and just be there for someone when it was time. I`m pretty sure, you all have something like this in your own life, something that you have unanswered questions about, chapters unfinished and you know what... it`s OK. This is what makes you YOU. I have struggled and still have some issues with depression and anxiety, did I ask for them?! Nooooo... Nobody does, but it happens anyway. I know it`s still a stigma in many places and situations. I`ve seen it before, but struggling doesn`t mean you are worse than anyone else or that you are failing in life. It only means that you are still a human, you still have feelings, that`s important. Nobody is perfect, I mean it. Maybe you don`t see their struggles and flaws, but they still have it. We all do…
By Dory5 years ago in Motivation
The Better Life
We all want to live a better life, if our income is low, we want to make more, if our happiness is at a 4 we want to be at a 10, if our health is at a 7 we should strive to be a 10. That to me is the better life and I obsess and grab every opportunity, skill and inspiration I can find to create a better life for me and my family. My three tips for a better life are:
By Shannon Deguara5 years ago in Motivation
Coping with Feelings of Uncertainty and Worthlessness During These Hare Times
If you asked me how I was a few months ago, I would have replied “I am mess.I haven’t felt this anxious since middle school, and my depression is getting worse. I really don’t know why because nothing is different. I still live the same life I lived a year ago, but I am beginning to have problems now.”
By Val R5 years ago in Motivation
POTENTIAL
Hey guys! I decided to do a blog🖥️✍🏾🖊️ on "Potential" this time because it’s crazy how many of us have this “power” 💪🏾💡(and I say power because it’s something we hardly use that is very useful )that we don’t use and rarely think about sometimes. I do not know about y’all but sometimes I do ask myself do I even have potential? 🧐🤔And how come I don’t see it in myself or use it?🤔🤔🧐 And I’m not going to lie because half the time I’m lazy and don’t want to push myself but in times like these, it’s crazy because I’m using every piece of it.😂😆 Growing up for me, starting in middle school I was told that I have the potential I just have to use it. I always thought it was just something teachers say but it followed me all the way to high school because teachers were saying the same thing there too.😮😲 It was weird, I flew through high school not paying attention to that but kept it close to me all these years.😯😱 I realized my potential, when I realized I wanted to own my own business and the thoughts 💭💭and ideas that popped up where endless. 💲🤝📊🏢
By Ada'Mesha Adkins5 years ago in Motivation
Expectations vs. Reality
One of the hardest things to do is differentiate in life is your expectations and plain and simple the reality of things. Sometimes we examine our own lives through the lens of how we perceive our friends and acquaintances lives being and we subconsciously or sometimes fully consciously expect the same in our lives or become envious of that lifestyle although I believe firmly that everyone is deserving of a healthy environment a full stomach and positive people surrounding them, unfortunately that just isn't the reality and the sooner we are able to not only accept that it's the way it is but that there are alternatives to it, the sooner we can begin looking at a solution to the issue, instead of just being angry try your absolute hardest to be content in life and the slightest step in the direction of your expectations will be all the more satisfying.
By Search Motivation5 years ago in Motivation
Blogging Is My Friend
Blogging is my friend and has been my friend since 2009. How old was I? I was only thirteen. As a child, it was hard for me to express myself. I was afraid if I end up saying something that either offended them or hurts me back. Was whatever I wanted to say important anyways? If I am happy or sad about something, what good is it to tell another person who has nothing to do with it? Why would anyone want to know whats my favorite color or movie to watch?
By EZ5 years ago in Motivation
You Are Not Alone
You look around and you notice you are not where you had thought you would have been let alone the person you have become. Things that use to make sense no longer do and those who once understood you now look at you like your going to break or blow up any minute. They see you as this fragile being and the irony is that you have never felt stronger. Feeling like for once in your life you know exactly who your are, although you struggle with what you want and what your purpose is you know that whatever it may be is greater than this life. It took a lot of life lessons to get to be the person you are today, a lot of pain, lost, and failure. You may not be where you want to be but at least you are not where you used to be, broken and afraid. There will be times when you will want to give up because that seems so much easier, but I promise in those times if you just keep pushing forward you will not regret it.
By Spiritual Bahadie5 years ago in Motivation
Do Better
Maybe you slept in. Maybe you skipped your workout. Maybe you ordered the burger instead of the salad. The bottom line is you messed up and now you're feeling guilty about it. Well, what're you going to do there Einstein build a time machine and travel back and fix your mistakes? As dope as that would be it is also highly unlikely and unrealistic. So what're you actually going to do mope around and feel sorry for yourself? If we're being completely honest that is what most of us are going to do after making a mistake. Trust me. Been there, done that. Countless times nonetheless. But today I'm here to tell you that feeling sorry for yourself is a total waste of time and energy and will actually set you back in achieving your goals.
By Connor Warman5 years ago in Motivation
